Thursday, September 30, 2010


 Just imagine how much more productive your life could be if  not only me and you read and followed these principles, but everyone. Oh wait, I'm not sure if our current society is ready. That would require losing the all powerful yet suffocating human virus. It's called EGO.
Ego causes us to go into isolation.
Think of the know-it-all, or "too proud to ask" person, or simply the "ego-maniac" they always paint themselves in a corner. They get themselves into a lose-lose situation. And worst of all, by the time they figure out this whole EGO thing they have already isolated themselves from things or people that mean a lot to them.


PRINCIPLE 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

*You can't win an argument.

*A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.

*If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; But it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will.

*Welcome the disagreement.

"When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary."

*Distrust your first instinctive impression when entering a disagreeable situation.

*Control your temper.

*Listen first.

*Build bridges of understanding.

*Don't build higher barriers of misunderstanding.

*Look for areas of agreement.

*Be honest.

*Apologize for your mistakes.

*Promise to think over your opponent's ideas and study them carefully.

And mean it.

*Thank your opponent sincerely for their interest.

*Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem.

PRINCIPLE 2: Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."

*A sure fire way of making enemies—and how to avoid it.

"Men must be taught as if you taught them not and things unknown proposed as things forgot." –Alexander Pope

"You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself." -- Galileo

"Be wiser than other people if you can; but do not tell them so."

-- Lord Chesterfield

"One thing only I know, and that is that I know nothing." – Socrates

PRINCIPLE 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

*If you're wrong admit it.

PRINCIPLE 4: Begin in a friendly way.

*A drop of honey.

"A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall." – Lincoln

"The sun can make you take off your coat more quickly than the wind; and kindliness, the friendly approach and appreciation can make people change their minds more readily than all the bluster and storming in the world." – Aesop

PRINCIPLE 5: Get the other person saying, "Yes, yes" immediately.

*The secret of Socrates

"He who treads softly goes far." – Chinese Proverb

PRINCIPLE 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

*The safety valve in handling complaints.

PRINCIPLE 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

*How to get cooperation.

"The reason why rivers and seas receive the homage of a hundred mountain streams is that they keep below them. Thus they are able to reign over all the mountain streams. So the sage, wishing to be above men, putteth himself below them; Wishing to be before them, he putteth himself behind them. Thus, though his place be above men, they do not feel his weight, though his place be before them, they do not count it an injury." – Lao-Tse

PRINCIPLE 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.

*A formula that will wonders for you.

PRINCIPLE 9: Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.

*What everybody wants.

PRINCIPLE 10: Appeal to the nobler motives.

*An appeal that everybody likes.

PRINCIPLE 11: Dramatize your ideas.

*The movies do it; TV does it, why don't you do it.

PRINCIPLE 12: Throw down a challenge.

*When nothing else works, try this.

*Give people the chance for self-expression- to excel- to win. The desire for a feeling of importance brings out the best in people.

Wednesday, September 15, 2010


PRINCIPLE 1:        Become genuinely interested in other people.

                *Do this and you'll be welcome anywhere


PRINCIPLE 2:        Smile.

                *A simple way to make a good first impression.

*People, who smile, tend to manage, teach and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There's far more information in a smile than a frown. That's why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment." –Prof. James V. McConnell Univ. of Mich.

PRINCIPLE 3:    Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.   
        *If you don't do this you are headed for trouble.

PRINCIPLE 4:    Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
        *An easy way to become a good conversationalist.

PRINCIPLE 5:    Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
        *How to interest people.

PRINCIPLE 6:    Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.
        *How to make people like you instantly.
        *The Golden Rule.

Tuesday, September 14, 2010


This fun series is my follow up to the BANABU Blogs: I-III , IV-VI , VII-XI
Long before I ordered BANABU, I took my own notes on Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People."
Here are my notes:

PRINCIPLE 1:    Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

            "God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days"

—Dr. Johnson
PRINCIPLE 2:    Give honest and sincere appreciation.

            "Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him."

PRINCIPLE 3:    Arouse in the other person an eager want.

"If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from that person's angle as well as from your own." –Henry Ford
"First, arouse in the other person an eager want. He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot walks a lonely way." –Prof. Overstreet
                                    "Hearty in his approbation and lavish in his praise." –Charles Schwab

Monday, September 13, 2010

Androgynous America

Americans, I fear, are turning into an androgynous society. The signs are everywhere:

  • Women who wear the pants in the family
  • Sexless relationships (the mojo is gone)
  • Infertile women
  • Men with boobs
  • Men with hips
  • Women with facial hair
  • Failed relationships due to gender roles not being played out.
  • Estrogen replacement commercials
  • Low testosterone commercials
And then there's that self talk or bet between friends, "Is that a man or woman over there?"

We don't have two genders of humans roaming the globe anymore. We have several.

We have:

  • The estrogenized male, chubby with girl hips and bitch tits
  • The de-testosteroned male (think Gelding in the horse world)
  • The she-male or gender bender equivalent
  • The gay bitch (actual term in the world of homosexuality), girl in a male-male relationship
  • The builder, manly man in a gay relationship
  • The metrosexual
  • The knight in shining armor- the traditional man's man and woman's affection
  • The tomboy
  • The dominant lesbian or bull dyke
  • Mustache Mary- Low estrogen, zero sex drive, PCOS
  • The dragonlady- aggressive boss/ manager or business owner and runs the house at home.
  • The submissive female of any relationship
  • The prom queen, suzy homemaker
Is there a right or wrong to all this? No, not at all. But I'll tell you this- if you want to adapt you better understand who you are dealing with. Just like the breakdown of personalities into dogs if you have read Sales Dogs or the gems like Dani Johnson uses, understanding is the beginning root of knowledge. Which direction should I go with this?

Do I delve into how we need to understand the many facets of being humans and how to interact with success?


Do I address the environmental impact on our bodies where hormones are being altered and thus altering the dichotomy of the human species into a conglomerate of beings?

Sunday, September 12, 2010

BANABU: Principles VII-XI

In this final installment of the BANABU Principles, let me remind you that Mike Kemski developed this as his abbreviated notes from reading thousands of dollars worth of self-improvement books.
Because life and experiences are all like great poems (open to multiple forms of interpretation), may I encourage you to write your own one page note on a book you read because it may help you better yourself in some form. Here are his final one-liners for the last 5 principles.


Principle 7- Only Decisions Change Lives

*You Can Learn All The Newest, Coolest, Latest And Greatest Techniques But Until You Learn And Realize This One Thing, It Is All Just Useless Junk.



Principle 8- Progress Not Perfection

        *Trying To Achieve Perfection Completely Stops Your Progress.



Principle 9- Allowing Your Success

        *If You Order A Pizza, Wait For The Pizza Guy To Show Up. Don't Go Looking For Him.



Principle 10- Use It or Lose It, Continue To Learn & Grow

*Cars Need Gas To Go And We Need "Fuel" To Keep Going Too.
The Journey Is The Reward, Not The Destination.



Principle 11- Pass the Torch

*Not Only Does It Feel Great To Help Someone Else, Your Reward Is Massively Disproportionate To Your Gift. You Get A Lot More Than You Give When You Learn How To Do It Correctly.

Of the 11 principles listed in BANABU, my personal principal I strive to remember and work on is Principle 8. "Progress, not Perfection!" - Monty Moran

Saturday, September 11, 2010

How to Buy Organic

As a body make-over specialist, I not only help clients achieve ownership in a vibrant active body through exercise but also through nutritional consultation. This was meant to be a quick reference guide for my clients.

We proudly shop organic foods. In order to help understand why, here's a short definitions list:

Pesticide- A product designed to kill "pests." Pests can be classified as beetles, worms, flying insects, creepy crawly things, bugs, as well as cuddly furry friends such as mice, rats, rabbits. A poison is sprayed onto the growing foods to either kill or at least deter the pests from eating a farmer's bountiful crop. 

Herbicide- A products designed to kill "weeds." Weeds can classified as any plant growing that was not intended to be. 

GMO- Genetically Modified Organism- This is a tricky definition. Humans are technically genetically modified organisms- a discussion for a later date. And technically many different kinds of produce are genetically modified in the sense of cross-pollination. The big stink comes from plant seed companies and their Frankenstein plants. Here's what happened. Innocently, genetic scientists took the theory of cross-pollination and took it a step further through applied genetic manipulation. Most commonly known from the beginnings was the big, juicy seedless tomatoes and watermelons. Which in and of itself seems pretty harmless to consumers and the environment and sustainability of crops.

The Ugly GMO conflict enters when money becomes the bottom line. A few issues needed to be addressed by seed companies to make a killing in the industry (pun intended).

  1. Cross-Pollination is a slow tedious process that can take up to four seasons for a desired outcome in producing certain types of seeds. Time is money. Genetically modify plants to produce seed/ seedless crops.
  2. Herbicides and Pesticides are messy and culturally unfavorable. Who wants an apple that's been sprayed by poisons a dozen time in a season? So the next idea that takes science and genetics even farther into the "I'm not sure if we should be doing that" realm, was to genetically modify the plants to produce and release its own herbicides and pesticides from within the plant itself. And hey if we keep it a secret, farmers can say they aren't spraying their crops and everybody is happy. Except, the reality of rotating crops has become an issue with GMO's contaminating fields. Result is not cross-pollination, now it's cross contamination! A GMO crop field takes 16 years to restore back to original conditions.
  3. "We want to monopolize the seed biz" mantra seems to be overtaking companies' egos. You thought pharmaceuticals were bad? Seed companies have coerced our government to make it illegal for farmers to keep the seeds from their crops to use for next season in many states. Forcing farmers to buy from seed companies. Wonder why food is becoming expensive? Monsanto has become the major monopoly player- therefore when we get sick from foods traced back to GMO consumption, you can rest assured Monsanto will be the falling giant involved in the mess.
  4. Good news. GMO foods are holding less presence among the American soils. Bad news is that it's not necessarily less on our plates or clothes. Countries emerging from third world status, such as India are using GMO technology and very harsh pesticides and herbicides because a) they don't know any better, b) their government and society does not impose limitations, c) MONEY TALKS. Cottonseed oil from India should be avoided at all costs as it is a waste product of cotton production and therefore not consider a true food source. In addition, Indian cottons may cause skin irritations because of the harsh chemicals used as pesticides. Check your clothes labels!


Crap! This is getting long; I got sidetracked with that damn GMO stuff.

The USDA certified organic label- Ensures that the foods are free of pesticides, herbicides, synthetic chemicals, hormones, antibiotics and genetic modifications.

Conventional farming- involves the use of pesticides, herbicides, synthetic chemicals, hormones, antibiotics and/ or genetic modification.

Principle of Supply and Demand- Says that if we don't demand or create the need for conventional farming and the slow poisoning of you and your kids then conventional farming methods will not be supplied, eventually. A return to more organic farming and foods will revive if we increase the demand.


Beets- thin skinned root that absorbs heavy metals

Bell peppers (all colors)

Carrots- so good at absorbing heavy metals that they are at times grown as a throw away crop to rid a field of arsenic contamination.


Collard greens, salad greens, Swiss chard-


Green beans


Spinach- Often grown in less-than-ideal conditions. Add fungicides to the list.

Winter Squash- Coated with oily wax, making skin inedible.

*Vegetables without a comment are covered in pesticide residues.




Broccoli, Brussels sprouts, cauliflower, cabbage-

Eggplant (all varieties)


Onions (all varieties)

Rhubarb- Leaves are already highly toxic to many creatures (including humans).

Sweet corn- Buy Local

Sweet potatoes

Tomatoes- Buy Local

Zucchini- Buy Local



Peanuts (and peanut butter)- Grow underground and absorb toxins from soil.

Pecans- Add miticides to list.



Dried beans- Usually washed, soaked, rinsed and boiled Buy Local

Macadamia nuts

Sesame seed


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